It sucks to be a celebrity: I want my privacy and not stalkers!

It sucks to be a celebrity!

I spent sometime on Youtube tonight watching Celebrities getting caught up by aggressive paparazzi. In general people think that if you become a celebrity, part of the job in your personal life is being recognized, photographed, stalked and followed.

Think about that..

What “if” a celebrity got into acting for reasons of money, but moreso, perfecting their craft of the ability to act. In the beginning they didn’t realize that they could no longer walk in public without the shot of multiple cameras, and their entire life being subject to public scrutiny.  They wanted to act, because they had a talent. That’s reasonable.

Some of you reading this might think, well, if they are going to be a celebrity, they should have known what that means, and they deserve everything they get.  But really, do they?

Fine,  you want to judge a celebrity based on their last performance, that’s your right. But please leave them alone while they are off the film set.  The person you know on camera, has their own personal desires, loves, and needs, and guess what? They’re human too.  As humans, we all want some peace, some time to ourselves, and time to enjoy life.

RECOMMENDATION TO THE PUBLIC

If you see a celebrity on the street, in a restaurant, or some place, do them a favor. Just smile, and say nothing. Don’t approach them. Don’t pull out your phone and take a picture.  That’s the initial reaction for most people — approach or take a picture.

Now let’s take a moment to think for yourself.  How would you like it, if everytime you left your home, people were pulling out cell phones and taking pictures, approaching you, and watching your every move on your day off?  At first, it seems like “wow, I have fans”. But after a few weeks of it, it turns into “wow. I have stalkers. I really can’t live a normal life anymore

Just because you want to act, or because you decided that acting was your thing, and you’re good at it, doesn’t mean you can’t live a normal life.  It doesn’t mean that you can’t walk and enjoy your personal space in public.  Not all of these people were birthed in a petri dish [sarcasm] to be actors and sign away their right to enjoy life.  These can be normal people, that have a talent, and while they’re on set or at work, fine, they’ll welcome the recognition.

But if these same people just want to go to a burger joint to grab a burger unhindered like the rest of society, let them do that without holding up phones, or snapping paparazzi pictures, etc.

More than the fact that they are actors, they are humans, with a limited life on this earth, same as you. Give them space when they are not work.

To prove my point, think if you became an A-list actor.  At first the fame and fortune sounds great. But guess how fast you become a prisoner if you become too successful.

— Walk to the nearest park without the paparazzi following you? Not a chance

— Get a buggy and walk down the aisles of the nearest grocery store without being followed or talked to? Not a chance

— Go for a jog, without someone spotting you? Not a chance

If we love the celebrities that give us entertainment on screen, the best compliment we can give them is to GIVE THEM THEIR SPACE in their personal life.  They’ve worked very, very, very hard to get where they are, and enjoy their talents in a production, a film, a TV interview etc.

But realize, when you see a celebrity who is not working.. guess what? THEY ARE NOT WORKING, and you’re invading their personal time that is very valuable to them.

They won’t take it as a compliment when you notice them in public.  Thousands of other people have done that already.  You’re not the first… You’re probably #5139 that has said “hey! I know you. I’m such a huge fan” in the last few months. It gets old fast to the celebrity. They’ve heard that numerous times already.

If you really do love and admire the celebrity you see… want to know what the best compliment you could do?  Pretend you don’t notice. Give them their space. No pictures, no approaching. Know that you could have acted like a jerk like everyone else and tried to own the moment for your own selfish purposes. But instead, you walked away. You smiled, and said nothing. You just backed off..

Those tender moments when a celebrity is recognized and not fawned over, and treated with respect.. are far and few between. Do that… Be part of that.. Every now and then, a celebrity can walk down the street and there is no paparazzi, or if they get noticed, someone smiles and looks away and says nothing.  When that happens, they’re aware of their surroundings, and they are especially happy that I can just “be me” for this hour, without flashes of cameras, or people screaming my name. I can actually enjoy my day off like the rest of the world lives.

So give celebrities what they crave so much. PRIVACY.

That’s not too much to ask. You can have all the money in the world, but if you can’t walk down the street, or be in public without being stalked, how do you value life?

Take a look at this video:

Listen to the fan squeal “He’s one of my favourites” — like it matters. Is he just a statue or piece of your collection? Do you even care how he is feeling at that moment? No? As long as Kaneau can pose for a picture with you in it, I guess everything is fine, right?

Study Mrs. Loudmouth, vs Kaneau’s reaction. She’s elated that she might get a picture with Kaneau, and yet she never asked him. She classified him as “one of her favourites”. Like a comic book character, a big nothing in her context of actors she likes…

This type of situation happens every day, and it’s sick to watch..

Celebrities are people too.  Stop exploiting them or selfishly using them for your own purpose.

Look how Kaneau looks like a zoo animal. Putting on a fake smile, just to make those fans happy. No one in that picture cares how about how he’s feeling, what he’s been through for the last 2-3 hours. As long as they get a Kaneau picture, that’s his problem, and they are happy.

..and then she says “I love all your movies”, like that is the sentence which basically says “Because I like you as a celebrity, and because I love all your movies, I deserve to treat you like a zoo animal with pictures for my own private benefit, so I’m happy… you probably just wanted your privacy, but I don’t care.. since I will be popular in my own inner circle by proving I met Kaneau Reeves..”

Stop treating celebrities like that..

With that being said, this is a non-stalker non-paparazzi blog.  I just paid $780 for a truck repair and I’m struggling to survive.  If you’re a celebrity reading this and agree with what I said, please send a few bitcoins to:

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Even if I get nothing by that BTC address, I’ll still continue to understand celebrities and the struggle they go through.  I think the rest of us need to take a step back and leave celebrities alone… That’s the best compliment we can give them.

 

 

 

My last post was 4 months ago. I’m sorry.

What happened to me, is what happens to most bloggers.  Google tells you “create a blog”, get a following, get visitors to your site, and you’ll receive traffic.

So people like myself, write how we feel each week, hoping that it gives some value to those of you out there who find us, read it, and are similar.

Since people normally don’t respond or write comments, most bloggers eventually give up, get lazy, and say “there is no point in writing a new post, cuz no one will read it anyway, and even if they do, I’ll never know about it”.

But today I decided to visit the blog, and when I realized my last post was 4 months ago, my stomach twisted, I felt horrible, and I don’t care how many visits Google promises, I don’t want to be that greedy person who only writes blogs in order to get visits.

So here I am. Front and centre. Willing to take blame for my lack of posts over the last 4 months, and for that, I am really sorry.

With that being said, what is the current event / agenda of the day that we can talk about?

How are people really different? – Actually we’re not!

Today I spent a couple of moments outside of a grocery store, and a casino. Two different places, same people shuffling out of the exit. I sat there wondering, how am I different from any of these people? I learned, I’m not really.. and neither are you.

To put it into perspective. 99% of everyone you know, buys groceries at a grocery store.  Once a week, or once every two weeks, we’re in a grocery store, buying food.  I do that, you do that, or someone you knows does that..  Immediately we have a connection of some sort based on the way we shop for food.

If you sit long enough in a grocery store parking lot, watching the exit, it starts to look like some sort of ant farm, where people are running about their day to day lives, almost like ants do.. We’re all part of the same scope of life.  Now, it may seem annoying that I’m pointing something out that no one asked me to point out. But my question to you is “why is it so annoying?”

Could it be true?

Do we run our lives in the same rhythm as ants? Are we really that predictable that every week, or every second week, we’ll show up in a grocery store and not think much about it?

It is bothersome, even to me, when someone points out the obvious, without be asked to do so.

Too late. I’m doing it. The reason why, is quite simple.

I don’t want to be an ant. I don’t want to predictable with my grocery shopping behaviour that way either.

But it will continue to happen, and just like you, I can justify 100 reasons why it is fine to be seen in a grocery store each week, or every 2nd week. That doesn’t change the concept.

So why is this important?

You have unwittingly have been reproducing repeated behaviour each month of your life without realising it. Don’t believe it? Start writing down each trip to the grocery store you make each month. Record the date, time, how long you were in the store, and how much you spent.  Keep a log book. Review it after 5 years. Of course, no one will do this, that would be insane behaviour. But if you did, what would you find?

Exactly my point.

We are creatures of habit, always have been, and always will be..

So when we act indifferently towards one another in public, we’re actually being idiosyncratic which is a stupid way of isolating yourself away from the world around you.

People can come up with tons of reasons why that is good. Safety, individuality, efficiency, reason, etc.

..at the end of the day..

It’s stupid.

To prove this fact, if you are a person that has ever gone camping in the wilderness.. Have you ever had friendly conversation with someone in the next campsite? Two different people, in the middle of the forest, camping, that find a common ground, to be friendly.. most people have done this..

What’s different?

Why do we have to be camping in the middle of the forest to meet our neighbour, when we can’t possibly look them in the eye when we grocery shop?

Pride, stupidity, and ant-farm behaviour gets in the way.

What a laugh. We have a better chance of meeting a new friend in an forested campsite, than we can, in a grocery store that we both visit each week or two.

If you can’t see this by now, maybe you never can. For me, I see a real problem with it.

..thats why I am blogging about it..

Life is funny that way. We all can be in the same line up at the grocery store in the cashier line, but no one dare say a friendly word to a stranger!

Social stupidity regulates the way we interact with one another, and it has been this way for decades. At what point do we learn and change things?

Just to be silly, I think I might try something on my next grocery store visit.

I am going to do something renegade, totally off the wall. Something surprising, and shocking!

I’m not going to wear a mask. I’m not going to dress strangely, nor am I going to draw attention to myself by dancing in a weird way.

I’m simply going to turn to the person behind me in the cashier line, introduce myself, and say “how are you doing today”.

When I do that, I’m sure the person is going to cycle through about 300 reasons why they should label me as a freak. I’ll know at that point, that’s more their issue – not mine. I simply broke the forever repeating cycle and chain of life by recognizing people around me without asking for social approval first.

Wouldn’t that be interesting and fun at the same time?

So, what is it I’m trying to advocate?

Be friendly to a stranger. OMG. How dare you do that?

LOL

 

 

Too busy to read a blog. Too busy to comment. Blogs are dead?

It was only a couple years ago, everyone was told “you had to have a blog”..

The only way to survive on the internet was to have a blog. People did it, companies did it, socialites did it. Everyone had a blog, because the “in” thing to do, was to have a blog.

Guess what happened? There was an over-saturation of blogs and no one was reading them anymore.

I love (and still do) writing a blog post.  It’s my way of sharing my inner most feelings about the way I view life and see who listens. The problem is, that I do get a couple dozen people who read my stuff, but none of them will ever push the button to leave a comment.
It is ok, I’m fine with it now. YES! I am talking to you.  You’ve read this far, and you are the exact type of person I’m referring to.. I don’t mean to call you out like that, but if you were me, you’d understand.

People are busy these days. Definitely too busy to comment to blog posts. Actually, aren’t blogs dead anyway? Everything is Youtube and video now. Who has the time to read.

—-> I will tell you who has the time to read <—-

…intelligent people. People that have gone on Youtube, watched the amateur dribble on there, and want more. People who aren’t afraid to enrich their brains by reading text.

I admit, in this blog post I’m getting a little cynical. For that I apologize.

But the only people I am apologizing to, are those that have read this post to this point. That’s you!  Do you realize over 100 people have landed on this blog page, and you’re one of the 1% that actually kept reading and might even respond?

So let it be.. people may be too busy to read a blog, or comment, and blogs may be dead.

That’s not the reason I started blogging about my thoughts though. I will continue to do so, irregardless of how Google wants to rank me.

I am curious though, about you.

Have you been here before? Ever written a blog yourself? What do you think about blogs?These are simple questions, and if you could take the next 30 seconds out of your day to even answer one of them, that’d be so nice..

I guess at this point, I’ll have to wait and see.. 🙂

 

How much makeup is too much? Real cosmetic advice and tips for women & girls.

Most of us, whether you are male or female will spot someone who is obviously wearing too much makeup. The problem is the person innocently doesn’t realize it.  Here’s some real advice for girls and women who might accidentally wear too much makeup. The reason for this post is simple..

Today on youtube, I watched a girl doing a product review on something, and I was totally distracted by the amount of makeup on her face instead of what she was saying. That’s a sure sign that she was wearing too much makeup. When your makeup distracts from what is coming out of your mouth, that’s a clear indication that something is wrong.

If I was a jerk, I’d link to her video. That wouldn’t be fair to her, and I’m not going to.. But imagine in your mind how much makeup she must have had on for it to trigger me to write this entire blog post.  “Yeah.. it was that bad.”

I’m not one of those guys who hate makeup and cosmetics. I think when it is applied correctly, it can bring out a girl’s features and give her the attention she deserves (in a good way).

[Side note: By the way, I have this weird thing, where I never know the appropriate time to say girls, or women, so forgive me if I seem to use the wrong word in the wrong context. I know it’s about context when using those words, but let’s concentrate on makeup and ignore that little fiasco.]

Make up, when applied correctly will bring out a girl’s features without “creating new ones”.  For instance, a little light eyeshadow can bring out your beautiful eyes. Too much eye shadow looks like you’ve created bruises above your eyes and looks plain silly.

Too much blush, goes from a little healthy color in your face, to someone who has a serious medical condition (maybe heart problems? Or Rosacea?)  The amount should be just enough where someone can’t tell if you’re actually blushing vs whether or not you need to see a doctor. (Genuine blushing is a little cute, so I think that’s why blush to this day is named that, and the look people are striving for..)

Watch your colors.  You should re-do your makeup depending on where you are going, and the time of day. It looks silly if you’re wearing darker colors at 2pm in the afternoon, as if you just walked out of a night club.   Daylight vs night, has an incredible effect on makeup, so watch for that..  Often cosmetics come with names to help you out with that..

Caking your face where your face is a different color than your neck, is a sure sign you’ve applied too much makeup. By that point, you are now layers deep, and it shows. This doesn’t mean you should start applying makeup to your neck either. If you did that, the back of your neck or arms would look different from the front view, and you’d create another disaster.

Women and girls are obviously a little more self aware about their look than most other people.  Done right, we see the overall package.  Whether it be clothes, hair, makeup, smile, or demeanor.   Too much makeup ruins the overall package effect, so please don’t go that far with it.  A little bit goes a long way. Too much is a mess.

There are also situations, where any makeup at all, is wrong to wear, this includes common sense events like:

a) CAMPING.  Makeup stays at home. It doesn’t matter who you are with, or how long you’ve known them. You’ll look ridiculous even if your makeup is applied correctly for other situations. Anyone that knows you, will remember the times you were looking your best.  Wearing makeup on a camping trip means you are too vain about your looks, and it looks like you bring a lot of psychological baggage with you.  Just don’t do it.  Camping and makeup don’t go hand in hand. If they did, believe me, Coleman ™ would bring out a whole ton of survival makeup gear if it was that necessary to have. They don’t, and for good reason.

b) HANGING AROUND AT HOME.   This one is going to be a little harder to decipher, so I’ll have to give some examples.  If you wake up in the morning, take a shower, do your hair, and have breakfast with family, you don’t have to be all glitzed out at 9 am in the morning. It’s fine if you put makeup on before you leave the house, or if you are expecting company to come over.  Doing yourself up should have a reason.   If you are going to be slinging around boxes in the garage doing a reorganization that particular day, or doing yard work, you don’t need makeup to do it.

c) EXERCISING.  I understand that the gym is where a lot of girls can meet a nice guy, and they want to look their best, but you can apply it just before you leave the gym. This is similar to the camping situation.  If you have heavy makeup on while exercising it gives the impression you aren’t there just to work out. Instead you’re there looking for attention. That is too strong of a sign your giving out, and the only people you’ll attract at that point, is sneers from other women and stupid guys who have superficial likes about women.  It’s just not a good idea.

There are probably others, but those are the biggest three no-no’s that I think are worth mentioning.  Naturally this is just my opinion, but if you have something to contribute, I’d be happy to hear it.

There are things like painted on eyebrows, and the like, I could go further into, but I don’t want to over analyze this situation. The idea is to give you a few tips, and this is especially for those women out there who overdo it. The majority of us don’t want to see it.  In addition, you’re probably creating a problem for yourself without realizing it.

Real girls have some imperfections, and that’s fine.  A little accented makeup will help.  Too much makeup creates a new imperfection that screams a little loud, and you might be creating an entirely new problem for yourself.

So be careful out there, and share your thoughts.

Thanks.

 

 

How to get on the first page of Google (SEO tips)

If you have a website, and want to get on the first page of Google Ranking, this info may help you. It is really not that hard to promote your website,  and if you take these simple steps, you might find that your website will get the attention it deserves. To be honest, the way to do this is quite simple.

First of all, you must take time to think what is it that Google wants from a website before it lists the top 10 highest ranking websites on a search term..

People search Google for certain keywords and they want to ensure that particular search engine  is worthwhile spending time on. To keep their audience happy, they have to return legitimate results for all of their keyword searches. (If their search results were garbage, people would stop using the service)

Most website owners are looking for the easiest way to get “ranked higher in 3 easy steps”. Getting ranked high on Google isn’t magic. It is simple common sense with some work behind it. Have a good, resourceful website, that people want to visit and enjoy, and you’ll get your visits.

So what should a website owner do?

This comes the easy part. Have content and links that keep people around, and want to bookmark your site as a valuable resource. If the people visiting your site love it, so will Google.

In the older days (5+ years ago),  getting ranked high on Google meant that all you had to do is implement small changes on your website to trick the search engine spiders and get ranked high based on their ranking criteria.

Fast forward to 2013. There are no tricks anymore. Google is wise to all of them. If you want to rank high on Google’s search results, there is only a few  things you can do:

1) Make your website content useful. Make it so that someone interested in your topic wants to come back and check out what other things you have to offer.

2) Go to Google and search your own topic or keywords. Do any of those sites have better graphics, text, or layout? Do they truly offer more than your website does?

To get on the first page on Google means you are doing every single thing right, and have turned your website into a really nice resourceful  library that not only attracts Google, but keeps your visitors interested too.

Most of all, don’t fall into any of these SEO company traps, that claim they’ll put you into the 1st page of search results without any effort involved. Those companies only want your money. If your website sucks, well, sorry to say, it just sucks. No amount of money you pay to a marketing company will change that, unless your website changes too.

At the end of the day, stop listening to search engine optimization experts. The goal of your website shouldn’t just be geared to how to get listed properly on Google.  It should be more about, how to produce quality content for your website visitors.

Rankings and quality content go hand in hand.  Everyone seems to miss the point these days.  Most people think you can start off with a horrible functioning website, pay someone a few hundred dollars for SEO work, and instantly, your horrible website would appear on the first page of Google.  Calm down and think about that for a moment.  Do you think that is what your visitors want? Do you think that’s what the search engine wants on their first page? No? So why are you trying to cheat the system?

A solid, working website, with a lot to offer, will rank high on its own merit without help from anyone. So build your website with that in mind. Don’t look for shortcuts or easy ways to the top. The more you try, the more likely you are to fail.

Want to know how the advice I am giving you is real? I told you this for FREE.  I just want to help the internet community without making money on it.  This blog needs a lot of work, and I know it.  My next step will be to improve things on this end without looking for some fly by night SEO artist to charge me $1200 to promise me 1st page google rankings and then run away with my money.

So now you know. The only way to get on the first page of Google is with a lot of hard, honest, work.  That’s the secret.

The reason why life works the way it does is obvious to some degree.

The famous question about life is “why are we here?”

Well that’s the end game answer everyone seeks, but before we go there, let’s look at some basic ideas:

If everyone was slim, no one would know what fat is..

If everyone was always happy, we wouldn’t know what sad is..

If everyone was rich, we wouldn’t know what poor is..

[starting to see the trend?]

If everyone ate well, we wouldn’t know what hunger is… on and on..

What if?

Life is about every one having different emotions, situations, fears, experiences, etc, and we all learn how to co-exist, develop and help one another?

For instance, say I was an obese guy, and some guy comes fresh out of the gym with his muscles pumped and goes “Hey buddy, you could use some time in the gym. Look how buff I am!”

..and I turned to him and said “How do you know you’re buff? The only way you know that is in comparison to looking at me..”

That’s right. We need to have a mixture of body shapes, attitudes, social status, and more around the world for anyone to be able to define themselves.

Would it make any one happier if we all looked the same, had the same attitude, same money in the bank, drove the same car, had the same pets, the same tastes, the same..

No, life would be a bore.

Perhaps some of us were suppose to be rich. Perhaps some of us were suppose to be poor. Perhaps some of us were suppose to be better well off, and others looking for their next meal. As imperfect as it sounds, maybe that’s the way life works.

So, with the example I just gave. The “buff” guy coming out of the gym talking down to some obese guy. Who’s the better person? The one with a great body shape and horrible attitude, or the innocent obese bystander who isn’t bothering anyone?

Now the point isn’t to say anyone that goes to a gym and exercises is always this way. It could be reverse. How about the obese guy who walks around in public with a dirty shirt, spits on the ground, farts in public, doesn’t bother to shower, and curses or swears profanities in public? Is he any better?

In these two examples, it doesn’t matter what you look like, or what your social status is.. Nor does anything mean about what clothes you are wearing, what job you have, or anything else. Everyone has the potential of becoming a strain on society.

So the reason why life works the way it does, is for us all to learn, we share the same planet.  If your ego tells you that you’re better than someone else, you’re probably wrong. On the other hand, if your ego tells you are no better than anyone else, you’re probably also wrong.

Too much self-confidence is a bad thing.

Lack of self-confidence is also a bad thing.

Walking past someone on the sidewalk and saying “hello” as you pass, irregardless of your social status is a GOOD THING.

Back in the old western days, it was common when you passed a lady, you took off your hat, or at least tipped it in her favor. That’s gone. When a woman entered or left the room, all men in her company would stand, in respect. That’s gone too.

Now the fault isn’t men in this case, because even today you could hold a door open for some women, and they won’t even utter a thank you.

What does all of this mean? The more I write, the more confusing it sounds.

Let me get to the point.

The reason why life works the way it does is quite simple. Life is full of experiences. Many good and many bad. Life is what you make it. Or to be more exact, life is what you strive for, and want it to be.

You can either let things get you down in life, or you can look at it as an opportunity to seek a better world out there.

For instance. Let’s say you say hello to four different strangers on the sidewalk and all of them either look away or grunt back at you. You could look at it and say “that’s it. I’m not being friendly anymore. There is no point”.

But some of you might go ok, perhaps I met the wrong four people. I’ll try again anyway. Doesn’t cost me anything, and it’s free to be polite. The fifth person in your travels, you say “hello” and they stop in awe and say:

“Oh, hi! I’m not from around here. I’m trying to get to 22nd street. I’ve been trying to ask for directions and everyone I approach they either look away or grunt.”

There you go.  Just because it SEEMS like that’s the social way people deal with each other, doesn’t mean that’s what is happening in everyone’s minds these days. Perhaps your next friend could be around the corner, and you’d never know it until you physically bump into them and strike up a conversation.

Life isn’t a roadmap. No one (as far as I know) is selling a roadmap to the inner workings of life.

So treat each new day as a new day, irregardless of how what your past might have taught you. Never give up hope. In any given month, you’ve probably walked next to about 50 people similar to yourself in the grocery store, on the sidewalk, in traffic, at the restaurant, wherever. However society dictates we can’t know each other unless we’re formally introduced.

Ever heard “we need to break the ice?”

Where does this ice come from? Why are people, who live in the same neighborhoods so foreign to each other. Is it really that bad to strike up a conversation with someone without sounding like a pervert or a salesperson wanting something?

People, we all share this same planet together.  Life works this way, but it really shouldn’t.  The leaps and bounds we could make as a society is unseen.

I’ve decided long ago that I’m not a “glass half-empty” person.  I believe the “glass is half full” has potential everyday. I hold that true. While it’s fine, the next four people I may meet won’t validate that, maybe the fifth person will.

I think we all need to be less pessimistic and friendly toward each other. Once some of us start doing that, the rest will follow. Soon, the world will become a better place to live, and we can all share and enjoy life much better.

This isn’t a pipe dream, it’s reality. Unfortunately most of us are contributing to the problem and we shouldn’t.

So the next time a stranger says “hello” with a smile… just smile back, and say “hi”.  Friendliness and happiness is contagious just like a smile can be..

Comments?  What do you think?

 

 

 

 

Flooding. First time happening to you. How and why?

Before I begin, I’d like to send my heart out to all those who have recently experienced a flooding in their neighbourhood. There is no way to soften a blow like that.. when mother nature decides it is time to reclaim her earth, she doesn’t pick and choose where it happens.

People need to remember, that we’re all visitors here, for a temporary time. The earth will do, what it needs to do, without consulting anyone first.

If you do historical research, you will learn that continents, mountains, and lands have been re-shaped, and re-formed many times over the centuries. When the time comes for water to flow over the river banks and flood your town, there is nothing you could have done ahead of time to stop it.

It is no secret. Everyone likes to live near water. Some of the most expensive homes are near the ocean, lakes, or even creeks or rivers. As humans, we need water to survive. The sound of fresh water is soothing to our ears.
But there comes the catch-22. If you have access to nearby water, be ready at some point in your life, for it to become your worst enemy.

You’re not at fault for that, any more than mother nature is at fault for the natural cycle of the environment.  If you are to blame someone, don’t blame nature. Blame the developers who built your house near floodplain who knew this was a possibility. Blame yourself for not checking into the potential problems that could arise by owning a home so close to a natural water source.

As I mentioned, the earth is going to do its thing regardless of what type of urban structures we’ve built nearby.

So in the end, a flooding problem could be blamed more on the naivety of the citizens, developers, and City Hall who allowed something to be build next to a possible “flash flood” area. Sure, you could live there for 10, 20, even 30 years. But the day will eventually come. For many people, that day has already happened.

How can you properly prepare for something like this?

Well that’s kind of simple. The day you move in, get ready for a “grab and go” bag when the waters start to rise. Find an insurance company who will insure against floods. Your realtor may tell you that the place hasn’t flooded in 40 years. All that means is, that your flooding situation is overdue.

Get to know your neighbours, so you can help one another in a time of need.  Learn where the high elevation parts are in your neighbourhood.  Read your community disaster plan before a disaster hits. (All communities have one).

Keep extra money on hand, so if an unexpected emergency shows up, you’re not holding the latest popular cell phone, laptop or tablet, but instead have funds available to clothe, feed, and move you to safe ground when things go wrong.

Long ago, before people had houses, electricity, or even the English language, natives were flooded out of their shelters. When that happened, they became wiser, experienced, and passed down that knowledge to their own children.  We are not exempt from that either.

When mother nature unleashes her fury, we need to learn from that, and not be upset. After all, the writing was all on the wall the entire time. We simply didn’t listen.

My heart goes out to those evacuated families in Alberta, Canada.  I bet none of them will be buying their next home next to a “riverfront”. But at the same time, we shouldn’t chastise them for an innocent mistake.  When disaster hits, it brings everyone together. It’s one of those few times that community spirit means everything.

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Parental instinct: New mothers and fathers don’t need instinct.

New mothers and fathers don’t need instinct.

I watched a TV show tonight (20/20) to be exact where they showcased mothers that have no internal instinct towards the children they’ve given birth to.. They had a whole avalanche of excuses of why it was ok to abandon their sons and daughters because taking care of them didn’t fit into the mother’s life long goals.

First of all, this makes absolutely no sense.
If you are a birth mother and bring another human on to this earth, knowingly and willingly, it is now your commitment to ensure your child grows, develops, and remains safe.

Some of these mothers who “check in” on their abandoned children figure that that because they have no inherent maternal instinct, it is quite okay, to walk away.

My response to that, is simply, raising children isn’t going to be a bowl of cherries day in and day out. Just because you don’t want to fulfil your roll as a parent, doesn’t make it ok, to abandon your children and leave them without a mother figure in their lives.

Some of these women will say “well, they’re doing well, and to be honest, so am I, living away from home. I’ve become a better mother by leaving the house and having our odd talks over the internet”

Really?

Are you serious?

How can you possibly carry a new born for 9 months, give birth to them, and then walk away like they are some sort of family pet? People aren’t hamsters, goldfish or guinea pigs.

Do you have any idea how much you could harm your own child in life by leaving them to fend for themselves, regardless if the father is present?

It’s not a lot to ask. Every child wants to know their mother and father as they grow up.

So do new born birds, new born puppies, and new born hamsters.

Now the weirdest part of these mothers who decided to abandon their children, never went through the experience their advocating. For instance, many of them had Dad and Mom nearby. But in 2013 with new age thinking, they fully believe they don’t owe anything to their own children.

Listen closely. If you brought someone onto this Earth, you have a duty to them, as a civilized human being to guide them, help them, and be there for them.

This is common sense. These idiotic mothers who put themselves first, and leave kids behind, need a wake up call.

Now the 20/20 show did a camera cut to the kids which one 13 year old daughter said “I understand, and I’m fine with it”

Want to know why she acquiesced to that? Because she has no choice. She simply doesn’t know better. If you grew up as a child and your mother was a click a way, on the internet via Skype, you wouldn’t know better. You’d simply learn how to accept things as the best you could get.

Now I realize that not everyone is going to be Super Dad or Super Mom.. that’s not my point.

But at the very minimum, if you bring a child into this world, you have no right, under any logical point, to let them fend for themselves like that..

Just to reiterate, the person I’m mostly speaking about has her own “justifiable” blog here:

http://wildgoddesslife.com/the-better-mothers-project/

I read through her nonsense and half cared about her points. All the while I was thinking, how selfish are you to put your own wants and needs ahead of your kids that you birthed?

Life is a challenge. Being a parent to kids is a challenge. What none of us are really allowed to do, is bring new kids into the world and abandon them.

Here’s the clincher:

This same woman is now complaining about 4th stage cancer after abandoning her kids for her own goals and paths in life.

Her idiotic attitude to this day must be “why me – why do I have cancer?”

Well, you were given life on this earth to do something for the betterment of mankind. Instead you chose to use your time on this earth for “Me, Me, Me, and more Me”. Now you have 4th stage cancer, and still holding true to your illogical values. Your kids are suffering, and you use your time to write a blog talking about your 4th stage cancer.

You, Madam, by your own accord have become a waste of space, time, and effort on this earth. I have no compassion for your 4th stage cancer any more than you have compassion for your children out there that you have chosen to ignore.

At the end of the day, justice will prevail. Her eldest daughter (under 15) is already talking about the day will come when she has kids and she will never act like her own mom.

Life’s responsibilities aren’t a choice. They are a calling. If you avoid them, and ignore them, and you get 4th stage cancer, don’t wonder why.

I wouldn’t wish cancer on my worst enemy. But in this particular case it is hard for me to break down and cry for her.  I fully believe this woman brought it on herself with her selfish attitude. Perhaps the Universe in it’s intricate way s gave her an opportunity to do something valuable here, and she decided instead to spend her time here on her own self-interests.

I wish the best for her kids. For her, I hope before her medical condition worsens, she realizes her mistake. Selfish ideology never pays off. Shame on you.

If you have any comments to share, I’m really interested in hearing them.

 

Just so you know, I’m like you, but if I was your neighbor, you wouldn’t know it!

Every one likes to think they are different.

Questions:

A) Do you sleep in a BED? So do I..

B) Do you try to have breakfast every morning? So do I

C) Does it bother you when terrible things happen in the world? It bothers me too

D) Do you hope for a new, brighter, future tomorrow? (So do I)

How are we different? We’re not. We’re very similar. We want to enjoy life. Or are you the type of person that doesn’t want to enjoy life? (never met someone like that before).

We may look different, and be on different paths, but we both want the same things in life. Happiness, enjoyment, good feelings about our day, and more.

Problem is that you are reading this website and I’ve never had the opportunity to shake hands with you or smile at you. That is strange to me. Anyone worthwhile is surely deserving of a smile or a hand shake.

The problem is (in 2013) that community relationships are no longer important.  I could be your neighbor next door, and I bet you wouldn’t know how old I am, or what my middle name is.. Think about that for a moment.

Here you have, someone living right next you, and you’re not sure of their age, their middle name, or even any part of their history. How is any of that right? I could understand if you just moved in a month ago, but what if you’ve been living there for years?

Today’s problem is that people put walls up, and they don’t talk to one another. They do that for the sake of privacy. If a tornado or earthquake hit your home, how much would you be concerned about privacy at that point?

What if the things you cared about, and are worried about, are the exact type of things your neighbor cares about? Could it make a good conversation? Could you support each other, or is it something that will never be known?

That’s the funny thing about people.  We are so obsessed with our own lives, we don’t look around. What IF there was something you could do to help your neighbor? What IF there was something your neighbor could do that could help you?

Back in the western days, you would have had no choice but to know your neighbor. When things got rough, every one helped each other out.  They did that, because they wanted to, but most of all, because you never know when you might need a helping hand back.

AWKWARD

OMG,  How awkward is that? Asking for help from the guy on the other side of the fence? I’d rather do it myself than ask for his help. Guess what he/she is doing? The same thing! AWKWARD.

Want to know what an awkward situation really is? Two people capable of helping one another, but because of societal disconnects, neither one helps the other.

Is that logical?

Back in the old days, when someone new moved into the neighborhood, they were brought pies, the neighbors introduced themselves, and there was a community spirit.

Today, everyone segregates themselves like we’re enemies at war. Why do we do that?

…the answer will come “because it’s safer, and easier that way”

Really?

If there was an earthquake or tornado ripping through your neighborhood and your house was in shambles, and one of your loved ones was trapped would it still be “safer and easier that way?”

We all don’t need to wait for a catastrophe to learn who our neighbors are.. At the same time, it doesn’t mean you have to bake pies or lasagna and continually shower them with home coming gifts. But a simple conversation, “Hello, how are you? Goes a long way!”

There are people on your street, very similar to you, and you don’t even know them. You could have a campfire at a campground and have better conversation with the passersby than the people on your own street that live there all year long. How does any of this seem right?

The point of this blog post is to say.. You, yourself may not want to make the first move to knock on your neighbors door, to say “Hello” or go in for a coffee.  In addition, your neighbor probably isn’t going to come to your door either.

But at 9am when you’re both sipping coffee, why not share the moment and do it together?

That’s the strangeness of society. Everyone thinks they are above, beyond, and better than the person next door. It causes a disconnect, which is pure stupid.  If you are going to live right next door to someone for the next 5 years, then it is about time you get to know one another.

Knowing your neighbor doesn’t mean you have to love them, or want to be with them every waking minute. What it does mean, is that you can both to learn how to socialize and be friends. Doesn’t mean someone is knocking at someone’s door once a week. But if a tornado or earthquake hits, you know who you could call for help (or volunteer help) ..

Don’t be afraid of your neighbors. Make the first move. Because it is obvious that if you don’t, no one will.

Comments?

What is spam and why do we have to keep seeing this crap?

The problem is ten-fold. The answer is quite easy.

Sending spam is cheap. Guaranteeing delivery is not important. If you send 5 million spams (for free) and 75,000 of those are actually read, you’ll end up with at minimum 100 idiots that will respond to the spam with a buy order.

This is why spam exists today. On the greater scale, it is not worth the return on investment (ROI). However, those few hundred idiots that respond, buy, and pay money is what keeps this circus going.

It’s 2013 and yet there are idiotic people that still respond to spam and pull out their wallets to buy a good deal that can’t be true.  Until that stops, we’re all going to have to continue to deal with spam.

What’s that you say? I can enlarge a part of my body for a simple fee of only $29.95? (Male or Female). Then I’m in.. Have you ever known someone close to you to grow a bigger or shorter nose? How about a bigger ear?

Why are people so ready to believe they can give bigger reproductive organs based on some miracle vitamin they mail order? If someone said “Our studies show, that people’s elbows grow by 300%” everyone would laugh at them. Talk about breasts or that significant male organ, and everyone becomes a believer. Why?

Our physical bodies are what we’re made with. Our DNA isn’t changed easily. Learn to accept the way you are made and stop trying to find the miracle herbal cure that will change you into something you’re not. It doesn’t exist. If spam was non-profitable, then there would no longer be spam on the internet.

Now, for you North American continent folks, or European folks, if you are beginning to think “wait! I’ve never tried spamming, is it really that profitable?”

The answer is a resounding NO!  Spammers may take 8 hours of their day, upsetting over 3 million people to make $5 USD.That $5 buys them a dozen eggs, a loaf of bread, and if they are lucky a bottle of milk.

There are much easier ways to make money than spamming people by the millions. These people, however, are already in the poor house. Their justification is that 3.5 million spams enable them to buy a dozen eggs, milk, and bread. They’re desperate people and will result to desperate tactics.

So how do we handle this type of problem?

Quite easily actually. Do NOT click on any strange links from a strange email that you receive. If you get an email that DHL first class service has sent you a package (and you’re not expecting one) do NOT click the link.

The only way spammers seem to survive is by the recipient’s stupidity and greed. Do not buy into their games. Comb through each and every email, and be suspicious of the ones you receive.

If everyone was more diligent about the email they receive, then spammers would have no ability to use trickery to find new prospective victims. That would slow spam down to a crawl.

As soon as we all stop responding to spam, schemes, and the like, the sooner they’ll stop sending them.

If you have a suggestion or comment, let’s hear it.

 

What is important in life?

I always thought at an early age, I’d be someone special like a famous person.

I now have a very clear understanding of what life is about. If anything I say isn’t true, you’ll know it pretty quick reading this..

Not everyone is suppose to be a celebrity. Not everyone is suppose to be stinking rich. While it is true, we are all trained to think that being a celebrity or stinking rich is the ultimate goal, it’s actually far from what why we were created or what we are suppose to do here..

If you ask anyone on the street, everyone has a dream, a goal, something they want to strive for.. and get there, and that is good. It keeps us on a certain path to get there. The problem is, is that many of us will never get there, and we begin to wonder.. if I never reach my goal, is my life just a complete waste of time?

Have you ever been in that moment of your life, when you have every reason why you could just walk away, and NOT help someone, but you do anyway?

That’s precisely why you are here.. You are listening to your alter-ego, your spiritual self, that basically says when you have the capability of helping someone, you should.

So now your question might be, so that’s it? I am here to help other people? That’s my sole mission in life?

No.. You’ll find that in tender moments of your own life, you’ll witness the same thing happening to you. When you are truly stuck for a while, some person will show up and help you out of your own problem and you’ll never see it coming.  Think back. Some of the terrible jams you’ve been in your life, some lucky thing has happened where you go…

“Omg, if I didn’t get that job, I would have been on the street”
OR

“If they didn’t let me rent that place, I would have been homeless”

OR

“If I didn’t get a meal, I would have been hungry for days”

ETC..

I don’t know about your particular situation – but I already know, there have been times in all of our lives where we have suffered.  Give it a few days or a week, and something out of no where shows up and helps us.  That usually only happens to true spirited people.

So the next time you feel you are at the bottom of the pit of life, give some hope and faith. Someone around the corner might be helping you out of your jam just at the right time, just wait for it.

When we look at the question again “What is important in life?”

Maybe it is that simple. May be we’re here for those particular times that we are able to help someone out of their situation at the right time and the right place?

Everyone is on earth for a reason.

Many people abuse that opportunity.

Many people happily exist and help others.

Who are you? The one that abuses your existence, or someone who is not impartial to helping a stranger?

If you have gotten this far in this blog post, I already know who you are…

You’re someone who cares. Someone that thinks about the meaning of life, and wonders why you are here..

Thank you for that – you’re special,  and I’m interested in your comments.

I know that I’m here to share meaningful words without knowing who I am talking to, and I am happy to do that.. If there is some part of you that says, I want to respond, then DO IT. That feeling proves that you’re breaking out of your daily routine and comfort zone, and you need to share who you are, and what you think.

At the end of the day, we’re all human on this planet, and it is long overdue that we get to know one another.

 

What every one can learn from the Wizard of OZ

I admit, the title of this blog post is going to seem quite strange.  Many people have either heard about “The Wizard of OZ” or have seen the 1939 movie. Not much thought is put into it though. I’ll explain how this means something in your life right now!

This movie was based on the 1900 novel “The Wonderful Wizard of Oz” and it made its debut in film at the end of the Great Depression. Very few people actually realize the symbolism contained in that story and what it represents.  If you look past the entertainment value, there is plenty to learn from it.

Let’s go with some of the main characters as a quick refresher, and while I do, think about the overall picture and how it may relate to YOU or the people you KNOW:

1. Dorothy – a child lost in fantasy land, through a make believe dream, who is searching for a way “home”. As they say, home is where the heart is.. She travels through strange lands and situations, hoping to find her way home.

2. Toto – Her dog, her companion was PROTECTIVE of Dorothy

3. Scarecrow – He was missing a Brain. He was unable to THINK & REASON properly.

4. Lion – He was missing courage. He had FEAR and easily spooked.

5. Tin Man – He needed a heart. He didn’t know how to properly LOVE

Now fast forward to today. 2013, look at what most people have trouble dealing with…

Their thoughts are clouded because of too much stress. The newspapers and TV news constantly plague us with fear. Love from one another, even something as simple as “loving thy neighbour” seems strange and out of touch.

From 1939 until now, we haven’t really made much headway in life. THINK & REASON, FEAR, and LOVE seem to be things we are all obstacles in our lives, and at the end of the day, we may feel like we are as small and insignificant as Toto, but even that little dog got things accomplished.

Not much has changed in the last 74 years since the “Wizard of OZ” was shown in theatres.

That’s basically only a full lifetime of one person. There are still people alive today in 2013 that were born in 1939, that’s how short of a time span that really is…

So what can we learn from this story and apply it to our situation today?

[SPOILER ALERT – IF YOU HAVEN’T SEEN THE MOVIE “WIZARD OF OZ” – WATCH IT BEFORE READING FURTHER]

All of us are looking for “Home sweet home”. The place where we feel the most comfortable. We don’t need to run away from our problems or our situations. We just need to realize that home is where the heart is and we need to appreciate the small things in life.

We don’t need to constantly be in fear.  We can think and reason, if we stop letting other people do it for us. Pick up a book and read it. Think, Reason, and come to your own conclusions about life without having to pick a side based some news report by some pundit on TV or columnist in the newspaper.  Show love for people you care about, and if you haven’t seen the movie “PAY IT FORWARD [2000]” watch that one too. It will show you how to learn to share love with people you don’t even know. As the saying goes, “love thy neighbor, as you would, love thy self.”

Soon as I say something like that (a quote from the bible with the word “thy in it”) it makes people on guard, worried that I’m going to be preaching here. I’m not.  Sometimes we just need someone to point out the obvious. Most people will watch a movie like this without putting much thought into what it truly represents.

In 1939 the movie was a symbolic representation of what society is lacking. 74 years later, the general population is STILL lacking these qualities, or at the very minimum, most people don’t know how to handle them.

There were a couple of other important characters in that movie, that you may be able to relate to:

1. THE WICKED WITCH OF THE WEST – That is a fancy way of saying “Your boss at work”, or “Your Mother-in-Law”, or some other person who hates you unconditionally whether or not you deserve it. Don’t let these people scare you into submission.  Stand up for yourself and what you believe in.

2. THE WIZARD – Yes, this is the guy pulling on the levers behind the curtain, showing you how afraid you should be. Fire, spooky faces, thunder, and noise. Could this be our conditioning to fear the unknown and learn to end each day in fear? It was Toto, that tiny dog that revealed him.  In life, we feel like we’re small and tiny in the grande scheme of things. But as Toto showed us, be protective and don’t allow the wool to be pulled over your eyes.

When I was 6 years old, I loved that 1939 movie.  Fast forward many years later, I now realize, I should have paid more attention to the symbolic points of the movie. Those symbols represent my current day, and I see history repeating itself all the time.

If you’ve made it to this part of the blog post, then congrats. You’ve proven yourself to be a thinker. Now all you need to do is look around you, and see how much fear, lack of courage, love, and whatever else you may be missing.

I fully believe “what every one can learn from the Wizard of OZ” is simply the following:

a) Love

b) Compassion

c) Intelligence

d) Courage

e) Home is where the heart is

Sometimes we all need to be reminded about basic things like this and that is only fair. Everyone needs that sometimes.

What are your thoughts?

 

Valentine’s Day Ideas: How to make it special

If you are looking for ideas for Valentine’s Day, you’ve come to the right place.  This is a great list of Do’s and Don’ts and helpful advice.  Learn how to make this holiday special for that special someone.

On Valentine’s Day, DO NOT:

– DO NOT take your date out to a nice restaurant without making prior reservations. You’ll look like an egghead when they tell you there is a 2 hour wait, or that they are fully booked.

– DO NOT call a restaurant the day before, or the same morning of Valentine’s Day and try and get a reservation. Their phone system was already lit up with people who are trying to make reservations at the last minute. This is something you should have done a few weeks ago.

– DO NOT run to the card store on Valentine’s Day and expect the “right” card to be on the shelf. It’s already been picked through by then. You should have bought your card a minimum of a week prior to that..

– DO NOT do only “predictable” things. A restaurant, flowers and/or chocolates – those are simple cheesy attempts at proving how you love someone. Think of something new, out of the ordinary, and be creative.

– DO NOT order a bouquet online unless you see it first. Many of these online flower stores have “terms and conditions” which state that they can substitute the online bouquet for something similar. Actually visit a store, find a bouquet of flowers, pick it out yourself, and ensure the one you chose is the one that will be delivered. Why? Often they’ll substitute something of equal value which translates into a wilted mess with half dead flowers.

Here is a list of “DO’s” for Valentines Day:

– DO figure out your game plan a couple weeks in advance. You know it is coming, so why not make preparations as soon as February 1st on the calendar hits?

– DO take time to find that special card ahead of everyone else. Want to see a team of frantic men? Just visit any Valentine’s Day card display on February 14th, and watch about 12 men clamaring around the same cards on display at the last minute.

– DO book a special restaurant reservation well in advance. This way you can show your date that you made advance preparations for dinner at 6pm, and you won’t be sitting there looking at the hostess as an avalanche of couples get told “Sorry, we’re busy tonight, there is a 2 hour wait. You can have a seat and wait over there.”

– DO buy a gift. A dinner out, and a card, is the minimum that almost anyone can do.  Buying something (does not have to be expensive) but a little wrapped gift of something special can totally surprise and entice your date into realizing to you took him/her seriously on this special day.  The reason is simple. Choosing a nice restaurant is fairly easy. Picking out a card is fairly easy. Finding a nice gift that the person will treasure the rest of the year, is something totally unexpected and appreciated. It doesn’t have to be a diamond ring either. Find out what his/her birthstone is, for under $200 you can have a ring with their birthstone on it.  It is no secret, if it is jewelry related, it is often the right day for this type of gift.  Otherwise, it could be something like a little porcelain figurine, a stuffed teddy bear, something that says “I love you”.

SOME ADVANCED IDEAS

– Personally, I would NEVER EVER dine at a restaurant on Valentine’s Day for the simple fact that the restaurant is going to be overcrowded, filled to the maximum. The food and service is less likely to be at par when the restaurant is so busy. Do you really want to have that romantic dinner around 50 other couples trying to do the same thing?  The chances your steak will be cooked wrong, or the fact that your drinks will run dry before a refill is a lot more likely during the busiest dining night of the year.  The next idea can remedy this potential problem:

– Ask your date if they are willing to celebrate Valentine’s Day the night before, or the night after, to make it “that much more special between the two of you”.   Valentine’s Day is about attention and appreciation for the person you care about. The timing is less important. Remember, your date is less concerned about whether or not they have dinner on Feb 14th, but more so, how they are treated and appreciated during that special holiday.

– Valentine’s Day is about the “thought that counts” and the effort involved. Sending a cute text message like “I love you” or “will you be my Valentine?” may be a good starting point. But everyone knows it took you 5 seconds to thumb that into your phone. Every girl knows, for instance, having a bouquet delivered to the house, means you actually had to choose one, and order one. You don’t have to spend a ton of money. Just put some thought and effort into what you do, and they’ll love you even more. However, it has to come from your heart.

– Dinner out on Valentine’s Day is nice (with advanced reservations). What is extra nice, is a guy, who can’t cook, who tries his best to buy the groceries ahead of time, and follow a recipe for his special mate.  Whether dinner comes out good or not, it doesn’t matter. “Oh, honey, you tried, it’s good. I can’t believe you went to the effort” is what you’ll hear.

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So by now this Valentine’s Day blog post should have your thoughts running. Be creative, spend a little time thinking ahead, and you should be able to easily come up with someone special for that person in your life.

If you have any ideas that could add to this list, that you’ve done, that could help someone else out, please leave a comment.

P.S. I wrote this blog post on Jan 16th. As you can see, Valentine’s Day is less than a month away. Start planning as soon as you can, you’ll be glad you did.

Dentures: Why they break, how to repair Dentures, and who to trust making them.

My grandmother got her first dentures about 18 years ago. Her first set last her 15 years before they broke.  It’s been a crazy situation over the last 3 years since she got her replacement set (which have broken a third time).

(By the way, the correct term is denture, no one calls them “false teeth” anymore.)

Sometimes when it comes to things like shopping for a new TV or a new refrigerator, we do our research.  Since something like dentures is something we don’t buy often, we normally do not understand the quality difference and we should. After all, it is our mouth and our chewing teeth that we’re dealing with.

Typically dentures are expected to last 5 to 10 years without problem.  Anyone that makes dentures generally has “some” training, and they may even be a member of a local Denturist Association. This is where things change.

In the denture industry, there is something known as BPS certification that we didn’t know about. I’m going to talk about that after you hear what happened to my grandmother.

After 15 years with her first set of dentures, they finally wore out and broke.

For almost $600 she was fitted with a second set of dentures 3 years ago.  Two years later, they broke.  The denturist charged her an additional $200 for a repair.  A week later, they broke a second time!

When she complained to the denturist that the $200 repair didn’t last, he showed her the denture. He said,”It appears they broke in a different spot this time. It will cost another $200 to fix them again, I recommend we order you a new set for an additional $600″.

We asked how long the new set would take, and they said since they “sent away” for them to be made, she’d have to wait until the new ordered set would arrive.  You’d expect the denturist to make them himself.  Well instead, all he does, is take moulds, orders, sends away for the product.  He makes small adjustments and repairs on site, but he doesn’t craft them himself.

Where does he get these dentures from? CHINA is our guess. We don’t really know.

On her small pension, she couldn’t afford to pay the $600 and she didn’t trust him on another $200 repair, so she looked for a repair product and found one called the D.O.C. Denture Repair Kit

Without too much trouble, she was able to glue and sand them back together again.  The dentures worked great for a full year! (It’s an ironic situation when an amateur repair can outlast the repair done by a Denturist).

Well a year later they’ve broken again. It is time to go with a new set, but we are surely not going with the same original denturist this time.  We started making some phone calls together.

First, we called our unreliable denturist anonymously. We asked if there was any warranty with their dentures. “No, sorry. The only thing we do is offer 3 months of adjustments, but there is no warranties on the dentures whatsoever”. (Great, at least now they admit the quality of their product).

Next, we opened the yellow pages and carefully began reading the entire details of each and every Denturist advertisment.

We noticed that a lot of them advertised a “BPS” logo, with the exception of a bare few.

We called a new Denturist and asked them about their warranty. “All of our dentures come with a 2 year warranty against normal wear and tear”, the receptionist stated. WOW! That’s a big difference than the Joe-Shmo who was playing denturist with cheap china made dentures down the street.

It turns out that BPS stands for Biofunctional Prosthetic Denture System which is a high quality denture.

This is why good denturists advertise “BPS” and our unreliable guy did not..

I’ve even seen it mentioned that a true BPS denture has an official BPS logo stamped somewhere on the denture itself, to prove it’s authenticity!  DO NOT be fooled by sub-standard denturists who use cheap quality products, who offer no warranties. From now on, we will only trust a BPS certified denturist. We learned our lesson the hard way.

So if you are wanting to find a high quality denture, made professionally by a BPS certified technican, you can find one on this official website link.