Every one likes to think they are different.
A) Do you sleep in a BED? So do I..
B) Do you try to have breakfast every morning? So do I
C) Does it bother you when terrible things happen in the world? It bothers me too
D) Do you hope for a new, brighter, future tomorrow? (So do I)
How are we different? We’re not. We’re very similar. We want to enjoy life. Or are you the type of person that doesn’t want to enjoy life? (never met someone like that before).
We may look different, and be on different paths, but we both want the same things in life. Happiness, enjoyment, good feelings about our day, and more.
Problem is that you are reading this website and I’ve never had the opportunity to shake hands with you or smile at you. That is strange to me. Anyone worthwhile is surely deserving of a smile or a hand shake.
The problem is (in 2013) that community relationships are no longer important. I could be your neighbor next door, and I bet you wouldn’t know how old I am, or what my middle name is.. Think about that for a moment.
Here you have, someone living right next you, and you’re not sure of their age, their middle name, or even any part of their history. How is any of that right? I could understand if you just moved in a month ago, but what if you’ve been living there for years?
Today’s problem is that people put walls up, and they don’t talk to one another. They do that for the sake of privacy. If a tornado or earthquake hit your home, how much would you be concerned about privacy at that point?
What if the things you cared about, and are worried about, are the exact type of things your neighbor cares about? Could it make a good conversation? Could you support each other, or is it something that will never be known?
That’s the funny thing about people. We are so obsessed with our own lives, we don’t look around. What IF there was something you could do to help your neighbor? What IF there was something your neighbor could do that could help you?
Back in the western days, you would have had no choice but to know your neighbor. When things got rough, every one helped each other out. They did that, because they wanted to, but most of all, because you never know when you might need a helping hand back.
OMG, How awkward is that? Asking for help from the guy on the other side of the fence? I’d rather do it myself than ask for his help. Guess what he/she is doing? The same thing! AWKWARD.
Want to know what an awkward situation really is? Two people capable of helping one another, but because of societal disconnects, neither one helps the other.
Is that logical?
Back in the old days, when someone new moved into the neighborhood, they were brought pies, the neighbors introduced themselves, and there was a community spirit.
Today, everyone segregates themselves like we’re enemies at war. Why do we do that?
…the answer will come “because it’s safer, and easier that way”
If there was an earthquake or tornado ripping through your neighborhood and your house was in shambles, and one of your loved ones was trapped would it still be “safer and easier that way?”
We all don’t need to wait for a catastrophe to learn who our neighbors are.. At the same time, it doesn’t mean you have to bake pies or lasagna and continually shower them with home coming gifts. But a simple conversation, “Hello, how are you? Goes a long way!”
There are people on your street, very similar to you, and you don’t even know them. You could have a campfire at a campground and have better conversation with the passersby than the people on your own street that live there all year long. How does any of this seem right?
The point of this blog post is to say.. You, yourself may not want to make the first move to knock on your neighbors door, to say “Hello” or go in for a coffee. In addition, your neighbor probably isn’t going to come to your door either.
But at 9am when you’re both sipping coffee, why not share the moment and do it together?
That’s the strangeness of society. Everyone thinks they are above, beyond, and better than the person next door. It causes a disconnect, which is pure stupid. If you are going to live right next door to someone for the next 5 years, then it is about time you get to know one another.
Knowing your neighbor doesn’t mean you have to love them, or want to be with them every waking minute. What it does mean, is that you can both to learn how to socialize and be friends. Doesn’t mean someone is knocking at someone’s door once a week. But if a tornado or earthquake hits, you know who you could call for help (or volunteer help) ..
Don’t be afraid of your neighbors. Make the first move. Because it is obvious that if you don’t, no one will.