I have first hand experience at this today, and I don’t like it. However, it is the truth. Sometimes the truth hurts.
Money rules everyone. People are greedy. Reading this, you may think you’re the exception to the rule, but are you?
Everyone has bills to pay, riches to earn, and things they want to be able to have, or to do, in their future.
Many of us, I think a lot more than people may think, enjoy helping someone without getting paid. At least, that is the type of person I am.. If I truly help someone because of talent I may inherently have, I’m always happy to do so.. My thanks is enough by seeing the smile on someone’s face that needed help.
I’d like to believe, and always wanted to believe, that if I help a bunch of people, some day, someone will help me too..
Today, I got slapped with reality, and I got slapped really hard by it.
I could elaborate into details, but that doesn’t take away from the point, so let’s stick with the basic points…
I was working pro bono for someone, helping them with what it is they need, without talking money, expecting that if I needed similar help, they’d be there for me. I found out today, that is not the case…
Ever see one of those carnival dunk tanks? Where the person sits on a bench, you throw a ball, and they get dunked?
..that is what this person needs to have done for them. They need a fresh, cold water, dunk into a tank to wake up.
I realize I’m beating around the bush here, and I don’t mean to do that, as much as I’m trying my darnest to not publically identify the guilty.
In a nutshell, this is what happened…
1) I did about $1800 worth of work for someone
2) I asked them to help me with a project I was working on, and see what they could do
3) The labor involved in the $1800 I provided them works out to about 35 hours of my talents, abilities, and cost to provide..
4) I needed something that would have also worked out to be about 35 hours of their own talents, abilities, and costs to provide…
5) Fair deal, so I thought.
6) Met with them. They initially quoted me a non-friendly $8000 before the meeting, and then reduced it down to $5,000 after the meeting.
…here is where things get fun..
7) Two days later, this person revises their quote, and goes “Yeah, I’ve re-decided after the meeting, that what it is, I can help you with, is actually worth $12,800 and here is 10 different sweet reasons why you need to pay me for it.
This was a semi-friend that did this to me. I’m speechless. How could you possibly quote $8,000, meet with me, then quote $5,000, wait two days and up the ante to $11,800 ?
I already know the answer to my question.
ANSWER: Because you are in a position to do exactly that.. you did it, because you can.
Just because you can, and are able to do something, doesn’t mean you should.
This type of thing that goes on with people, in business negotiations shouldn’t be hidden. When a wrong has happened, speak about it. You don’t have to identify the guilty parties, but surely you are in the right to share the problem publicly on your blog..
Which is what I am doing, exactly now.
The world is rough enough. It’s even worse when you can’t trust friends (ok semi-friends) which are people you trust to be there for you, when you were already there for them.
So I learned a hard lesson tonight, against my will, which is that you shouldn’t put too much trust in anyone.. Even those people you think are close acquaintances of yours.
Which, in short translation means.. This is not a win-win situation now. Now it becomes a lose-lose situation. You upped your price more than double.. see where I’ll be later when you actually need me.
Money doesn’t rule all here, and now I certainty won’t trust you again.
So Mr. Greed, thanks for your nonsense quote. I’ve now learned that you’re not someone on my short list of people who I’ll ever go to again. Take your greed and stuff it..
Life is funny. Out of every 100 people, there is probably only 2 or 3 that are decent. I see that more and more everyday.
Life is suppose to be about give and take. It just seems that some people want to always take, without giving anything back.
Whatever. I’ll still manage. But to Mr. Idiot out there that took advantage of my goodwill… you have what is coming to you. With that attitude, and something bad happens, it is not me that caused it. It’s you that deserved it.
Best wishes to the rest of you. Please don’t let life let you become this type of financial monster where you have to lose friends and acquaintances for money, it just isn’t worth it.