The famous question about life is “why are we here?”
Well that’s the end game answer everyone seeks, but before we go there, let’s look at some basic ideas:
If everyone was slim, no one would know what fat is..
If everyone was always happy, we wouldn’t know what sad is..
If everyone was rich, we wouldn’t know what poor is..
[starting to see the trend?]
If everyone ate well, we wouldn’t know what hunger is… on and on..
Life is about every one having different emotions, situations, fears, experiences, etc, and we all learn how to co-exist, develop and help one another?
For instance, say I was an obese guy, and some guy comes fresh out of the gym with his muscles pumped and goes “Hey buddy, you could use some time in the gym. Look how buff I am!”
..and I turned to him and said “How do you know you’re buff? The only way you know that is in comparison to looking at me..”
That’s right. We need to have a mixture of body shapes, attitudes, social status, and more around the world for anyone to be able to define themselves.
Would it make any one happier if we all looked the same, had the same attitude, same money in the bank, drove the same car, had the same pets, the same tastes, the same..
No, life would be a bore.
Perhaps some of us were suppose to be rich. Perhaps some of us were suppose to be poor. Perhaps some of us were suppose to be better well off, and others looking for their next meal. As imperfect as it sounds, maybe that’s the way life works.
So, with the example I just gave. The “buff” guy coming out of the gym talking down to some obese guy. Who’s the better person? The one with a great body shape and horrible attitude, or the innocent obese bystander who isn’t bothering anyone?
Now the point isn’t to say anyone that goes to a gym and exercises is always this way. It could be reverse. How about the obese guy who walks around in public with a dirty shirt, spits on the ground, farts in public, doesn’t bother to shower, and curses or swears profanities in public? Is he any better?
In these two examples, it doesn’t matter what you look like, or what your social status is.. Nor does anything mean about what clothes you are wearing, what job you have, or anything else. Everyone has the potential of becoming a strain on society.
So the reason why life works the way it does, is for us all to learn, we share the same planet. If your ego tells you that you’re better than someone else, you’re probably wrong. On the other hand, if your ego tells you are no better than anyone else, you’re probably also wrong.
Too much self-confidence is a bad thing.
Lack of self-confidence is also a bad thing.
Walking past someone on the sidewalk and saying “hello” as you pass, irregardless of your social status is a GOOD THING.
Back in the old western days, it was common when you passed a lady, you took off your hat, or at least tipped it in her favor. That’s gone. When a woman entered or left the room, all men in her company would stand, in respect. That’s gone too.
Now the fault isn’t men in this case, because even today you could hold a door open for some women, and they won’t even utter a thank you.
What does all of this mean? The more I write, the more confusing it sounds.
Let me get to the point.
The reason why life works the way it does is quite simple. Life is full of experiences. Many good and many bad. Life is what you make it. Or to be more exact, life is what you strive for, and want it to be.
You can either let things get you down in life, or you can look at it as an opportunity to seek a better world out there.
For instance. Let’s say you say hello to four different strangers on the sidewalk and all of them either look away or grunt back at you. You could look at it and say “that’s it. I’m not being friendly anymore. There is no point”.
But some of you might go ok, perhaps I met the wrong four people. I’ll try again anyway. Doesn’t cost me anything, and it’s free to be polite. The fifth person in your travels, you say “hello” and they stop in awe and say:
“Oh, hi! I’m not from around here. I’m trying to get to 22nd street. I’ve been trying to ask for directions and everyone I approach they either look away or grunt.”
There you go. Just because it SEEMS like that’s the social way people deal with each other, doesn’t mean that’s what is happening in everyone’s minds these days. Perhaps your next friend could be around the corner, and you’d never know it until you physically bump into them and strike up a conversation.
Life isn’t a roadmap. No one (as far as I know) is selling a roadmap to the inner workings of life.
So treat each new day as a new day, irregardless of how what your past might have taught you. Never give up hope. In any given month, you’ve probably walked next to about 50 people similar to yourself in the grocery store, on the sidewalk, in traffic, at the restaurant, wherever. However society dictates we can’t know each other unless we’re formally introduced.
Ever heard “we need to break the ice?”
Where does this ice come from? Why are people, who live in the same neighborhoods so foreign to each other. Is it really that bad to strike up a conversation with someone without sounding like a pervert or a salesperson wanting something?
People, we all share this same planet together. Life works this way, but it really shouldn’t. The leaps and bounds we could make as a society is unseen.
I’ve decided long ago that I’m not a “glass half-empty” person. I believe the “glass is half full” has potential everyday. I hold that true. While it’s fine, the next four people I may meet won’t validate that, maybe the fifth person will.
I think we all need to be less pessimistic and friendly toward each other. Once some of us start doing that, the rest will follow. Soon, the world will become a better place to live, and we can all share and enjoy life much better.
This isn’t a pipe dream, it’s reality. Unfortunately most of us are contributing to the problem and we shouldn’t.
So the next time a stranger says “hello” with a smile… just smile back, and say “hi”. Friendliness and happiness is contagious just like a smile can be..
Comments? What do you think?